My Sanctuary Seems To Be In Hell!

As some of my friends know, I am... well, I am technically homeless. I do have a roof over my head, however, I can't call it home because I don't support it financially. When my boyfriend and I first came to this place the original agreement between the roomie and a mutual contact was that I would build his website in lieu of cash payment for rent. With this agreement that means he pays for the hosting and/or the server and I build the website, I also agreed to take pictures and video for it as well. People pay well into the thousands in dollars for this service alone. He's getting a damn good deal, I'd say.

He's computer literate, to a point but, he wants to make himself seem ignorant to the ways of modern technology. I am perfectly ok with this, more bandwidth for me! I understand his need to have questions answered but, I am not all that technical and certainly not good with communicating in a teaching fashion. The important thing is I *know* how to build the site he wants. He refuses to sit with me and look over pricing for various site hosts and when I do find him a spectacular deal, there's either no money for it or some other reason why it's put off. When there is money, the website is never mentioned. So, I wait.

Yet, somehow, I've become incompetent to site building since I haven't been able to answer his questions. You know, the ones that come in a barrage before I can even get two words out. I can do the work, I just can't talk about how it's done. Words fail me. I wouldn't be so pissed about this if it wasn't for the fact that his attitude toward me (who, according to him seems to be less of a person because I am not thin and blonde with a nice rack and shapely ass) didn't come off as total dickish. He'll go and tell all of his friends that I lied, saying I can build websites, when in truth, I didn't tell him that, our mutual contact did. I am a Graphic Designer with just enough Web building knowledge to get the job done. He doesn't seem to understand. He once had a room full of his friends and after embarrassing me by again asking me the technical questions that either he's not putting out correctly or I have trouble explaining he turned to his three friends and asked, "What is so hard about what I'm asking her? I don't think she understands simple questions. Can you ask her if she even knows how to build a website?" What's worse? One of those fuckers actually DID come and ask me! Oh... the snark that came from me! I did feel a bit bad because the one who asked me is about as bright as a burnt out lightbulb but... hey.

I wish I could say it just came from him but, unfortunately, this douchenozzle mentality runs rampant in this place, I guess. Or at least, as far as I've experienced with just a couple little rays of light. The first person, well, I'm not sure... I just get this feeling that as soon as I arrived there were secret little texts or phone calls telling certain people just what I am like in person, I am fat. Takes a genius to point out the obvious, doesn't it? Anyway, from the moment I arrived in this new town I noticed a change in a few others that I knew online. Now, could be true, could be just my anxiety. Either way, something changed. Things happened, I end up in the current Hell.

Another person I met tried to set the rules down in a house she has nothing to do with. Don't come into someone else's home and tell me what my "chores" are. If he want something done, he can ask or let me know that he appreciate certain things being done. Funny, how the first day I was here I was told to not listen to anything she had to say. She ended up being blocked from contacting me on my phone because all she could do was be a condescending twat to me via text. Also, the fact that she got my number by someone other than me, whether it was intentionally given or snooped via mutual contacts phone, I don't know. Just knowing that she's best friends with the first person I met here... yeah, that doesn't help me think that there was never nothing said behind my back.

Then there's this one bitch... this bitch who all sorts of comes up in here and saying that I should be cleaning the roomies bedroom, making his bed and ALL the other stuff around this house. When I am paid $10 an hour to clean this place like a live-in maid, then I might try to clean up after this 50 some-odd year old man who needs a mommy more than a maid. Sorry, but when he goes into the bathroom for hours on end to do Gods know what while reading the newspaper and then LEAVING the paper scattered all over for someone else to clean up or for the mass amounts of half stray cats to come shit on all of it, I draw the line. I do the dishes, sweep these dirty ass floors, do the laundry, sometimes bring in firewood, take out trash, make sure all 20 cats have food and water, cleaning cat shit off the floor, keep the fire going AND put up with a sexist jerk and all his friends (there are a couple cool ones, I don't mind them) all the while biting my tongue while people talk shit about me. I think I'm doing my damn part to maintain a functional household. Back to the bitch, I'm not sure how the hell I've managed to hold my tongue ever since finding out that she told my boyfriend that he needed to "put his foot down" with me. So, stupid bitch thinks that my boyfriend should control me, because that's what it is, control. Oh HELL NO!

Now, the current issue is the fact that my boyfriend and I received our Christmas gifts in the form of gift cards. So, we went shopping. We each got a new computer mouse and out of the $180 we got so far, the rest went for food or toiletries, hell, even cat food and if the roomie needed anything we were willing to pick some stuff up for him too. Now, we're not eligible for SNAP benefits and, quite frankly, there are others who need it more so what little we manage to get to our names, we buy food or other necessary items. This means that we are extremely "territorial" with our food. Roomie is Pescetarian, fish and veggie eater. We eat all the other meats except fish. Anyway, what non-carnivore food we got seems to have been asked for once and quickly dwindling since. I know that we were told to be territorial with our food but, we're not going to eat all of it in one sitting. STAY OUT OF OUR FOOD! We stay out of yours! Hell, he even ate the rest (3/4) of a gallon of MY ice cream in one sitting because I didn't eat the whole damn thing at one time. Just knowing that we've had to hide some food because, yeah, no one touches my Cinnamon Roll oatmeal! is pathetic. I thought there was an unspoken rule that unless otherwise stated, stay the hell out of your roomies food.

My boyfriend was working, selling meat on commission and was doing well at it too. He took some off season time off because I told him that all our roomie would do is say that no one wants to go be on his work crew, so my boyfriend decided that since his sales were down he would help out our roomie. Not to mention that the landlords are pissed that all three (or four) lots are filled up with the wood (roomie cuts down trees) and they want it cleaned out by the end of March. Roomie decided he'd be cool and tell them it would be done by the New Year. LOL! One day left and the lots are still not cleaned up. Both my boyfriend and I were here to help, guess what... twice... twice we were asked to go to the "lower 40" and help. He does different things every day and he's really picky about where he wants all this wood because, according to him, most of it is worth lots of money. Meanwhile, it's just out there rotting. We were here... ready and waiting to help, so if the landlords want to kick him out, well, we might just see if we can take over because my boyfriend is tired of just sitting around and is going back to work tomorrow. 

Oh, I didn't even mention the time that he made me feel like my boyfriend was too good for me. (He is but, he's mine!) Even going to the point of asking if the other women in my family were "pleasantly plump" (his words!) Hmmm, well sir, that's none of your business. So, I'm fat, I thank every God that be that I am not some skinny little thing. I for sure wouldn't want to be like everyone else! My boyfriend loves me just as I am and is a better person for seeing more than just the exterior being.

Today, I am waiting to see if we are getting kicked out because his friends made coffee in my boyfriends coffee pot, no biggie, right? My boyfriend was still asleep, I had just walked into the living room when it beeped. He must have been semi-awake because he asked if that was his coffee pot and I said, "Yes, I just don't know if it's your coffee." (Another territorial-worthy item.) Well, apparently his friends heard the early morning grumbles of the bear that is my boyfriend and ran outside and told on us. So, our roomie comes stomping back in yelling shit about us being "freeloaders" and "thieves" because he sometimes hands my boyfriend money to go buy stuff and authorizes "a pack of smokes" for us. Apparently, buying smokes on his allowed dime makes us thieves. I'm just waiting for his missing iPod to be a score for me in his delusional world. I don't need nor do I want an iPod, I have my own mp3 player. Thanks.

Needless to say, I have been seething all day because he can talk his shit about me, he can belittle me, he can steal our food, he can make me feel like I'm two inches tall in front of his pals amongst so much more and I, nor my boyfriend, can have a bad day?! Fuck. That!

I didn't mention that he's not even man enough to pull his shit with me in front of my boyfriend. Nope, he waits until I'm all alone, with no one to back me. When my boyfriend is here, I'm practically invisible. It's a welcome break.

So, you see, it's just one big awesome time here. If it wasn't freezing outside, and if we still had our tent, I think I'd be preferring that right about now. At least my sanity would be more intact and I wouldn't be feeling this mass amount of anxiety and the need to fuck shit up right about now.

Just smile and nod. Smile and nod.